*If you have an issue with a family member, it is generally bigger at Christmas.
*If you are having financial difficulties, the holidays make the lack of cash an even deeper sting.
*If you have a child that is struggling, chances are, the Christmas Day meltdown could be epic.
You get my drift.
So, what's going on in your marriage that is going to be magnified this season?
You have a few day before the actual holiday to make a mends and work through whatever it is that has been simmering since August.
Please don't rush out and buy your spouse another pricey gadget to show your affection. Instead, surrender your idea of a consumer Christmas and give your spouse the kind of gift they should be receiving every day from you.
You can wrap it if you want, you can even put it under the tree. When they open it, they will be speechless, and chances are it will change your whole day. It will probably change your whole next year if you really mean what you say (word of caution, if you don't mean it, then don't say it).
If you know you need to do this, but can't find the words, maybe some of these will inspire you:
Merry Christmas. I am giving you the gift of honesty.
I am giving you the gift of time.
I am giving you myself.
Merry Christmas. Here is my cell phone, my ipad, my xbox. It's yours for the day. All I want is you.
Personalize your gift so that your spouse knows it is from the heart. And enjoy each other. I hope this holiday is the best you have ever had. You might even start a new gift giving tradition.