I thought turning on cartoons (the kind with commercials, the kind I NEVER let them watch) would be enough to entertain and occupy 6 people for a few hours. WRONG!
(He's touching me, she took my blanket, I spilled my milk)
I made myself a second cuppa coffee and stole away into the other room with my laptop and calendar to try and wade through 8 agendas, making notes here and there of which days I will need my go-go-gadget octopus arms to kick in. (pretty much every day by the way)
Social Media doesn't always say it so bluntly- in fact those of us with big families really do believe that bigger is better. But there are times, like right now, that big families are HARD. I have three boys separated by floors so that I can actually think. The bigger they get, the louder they get.
5 little boys want to play on spring sports teams and my sweet girl needs to learn how to be a little more girly and should probably start ballet or something feminine since right now she is downstairs playing NERF war, and last night she "tackled" another girl because she wanted to be her friend????
Someone always needs something.
There is always a mess to clean.
The laundry is never done.
and No, we cannot go to the movies because it costs $60 just to walk through the door.
So I just sit for a moment and watch the giggly two "babies" run circles around the kitchen, through the dining room, and the hallway. They are 10 months apart and to my surprise actually love each other 90% of the time.
People still ask me how I do it, and my answer is still, "I don't know." If you have a big family, and you clicked on this for a few tips on how to survive with a gaggle of littles , you are probably thinking to read on would be a waste of time.
There is no magic formula that works for every family. For some it's structure, for others it's the lack of.
But oh my word, no holiday will ever be lonely.
And someday we will have like a gazillion grandchildren.
I can almost guarantee at least some acknowledgement every Mother's Day for the rest of my life- and maybe someday I will actually miss matching socks in baskets for days.
I can be real about the chaos. I can even admit that every once in awhile I daydream about being a lonely, single girl holed up under a giant comforter, wearing homely mismatched jammies reading romance novels.
Just because I have a lot of kids, doesn't mean that I have super-human powers.
I also wouldn't have it any other way. This is the only, and I mean only, life that I know that I am really accomplishing what I have been placed on this planet to do. All of the other stuff is fluff and extras. I want to do it well. I don't just want to raise my people without Red Dye 40 and the appropriate amount of Vitamin D for healthy teeth.
Big families develop big character. Not just in the kids, but in the parents too. God knew that I needed many, many trying personalities coming at me all day long because I have the worst tendency to think about myself and only myself.
So even though it would be nice to sulk (sometimes I wish I didn't know any better and I could be ok with a week long sulk fest)-- I just can't. I am way too grateful for my loud and obnoxious gang. They bring me the most joy. More than any girls's night out or luxury vacation.
Once upon a time I actually vacationed in Cancun in a bikini for Spring Break. This year I will make endless jelly sandwiches, wipe noses, stock up on snacks for a herd, and go to bed exhausted. To know that I spent my days keeping little people alive doesn't always "feel" like a lot. Many nights I lay in my bed unable to recall exactly what I did to be so tired.
but believe me, it's the best kind of tired. Happy Spring Break Mamas:)