Have you ever experienced a great high in life, maybe physical or spiritual only to be catapulted into a severe low before you even had a chance to really revel in the glories of your high?
As women we place ideals before us about our days, our husbands, our image, and our future. These ideals start as little girls watching a scene unfold in every princess tale we read about. The boy meeting the girl and getting whisked away into the sunset for a happily ever after. As an avid goal setter, I am not about to say that we shouldn’t set goals, or have ideals for the way we would like our life to play out. I am cautioning us as women, to not be so wrapped up in our plans that we completely lose it when life takes a detour.
Because here is the truth:
As the slow fade of reality unveils itself and all we have left is our weakness, there before us are the pieces of a messy life. The ideals that once motivated us are now a mixing pot of plans, and our lives become more about trying to put it all back together than the altruistic days of dreaming.
We have two choices. Either to accept our reality and step into freedom in Christ, or to slowly sink into the depression of what-ifs and have-nots.
God uses our weaknesses to finally get through to us. It is only when we get to the end of our rope, with nothing left to hang onto that we finally cry out to God in exasperation to come and rescue us. In reality, he was there all along at the bottom of the rope begging us to let go.
He is waiting for you right now. He sees you hanging on to that rope. He threw it out there in an attempt to rescue you from yourself. All you have to do is let go.
And for the girl out there who is thinking about her best friend....Your weaknesses are not the same as hers. I know as women we like to do things together. But this isn’t the same as taking your friend to the potty with you. No girl finds freedom hanging onto their best friend’s ankle. Jesus, in his desire for personal relationship, pulls each person out one at a time as they individually surrender.
What does it mean to surrender? To break free of a stronghold? How do we let him be strong in our weakness? I realize that for some of you these are Christian terms that might be hard to wrap your mind around what is really being said here. So I am going to break it down into three very practical ways to identify weaknesses and surrender them to Christ.
How do we let Him be strong in our weaknesses?
1- Admit my weaknesses.
This can mean simply saying it out loud, it can also mean that you need have a conversation with someone is your life and ask for help.
We alone cannot fix our addictions, our loneliness, our anxiety, our humanity, our anger, our food issues, our lack of self worth...
We bring it into the presence of Christ and let it go.
I do this by using I am statements, which remind me of God’s sovereignty:
I am strong because He is strong.
I am beautiful because He is beautiful.
I am worthy because He is worthy.
I am loved because He is Love.
2- Quit Comparing.
Comparison will kick you in the teeth and hijack your dreams every time
I often fall into the pit of comparison. This leaves me feeling fearful, inadequate, and lacking confidence.
3- Accept that you are loved.
Just as you are. Do you even know how much He loves you? Even if you never did one more thing, Our Father in Heaven will never stop loving you. He loved you before you knew who He was, and He will continue to love you for all of eternity.